Consider something courageous that you’ve done in your life: a difficult conversation initiated with a sibling, ending an all-too-cozy-but-hyper-toxic relationship, quitting your job, selling your first piece of art, breaking a habit (phone, smoking, soda, candy, alcohol), coming clean on a long-held secret…how did you know it was the moment to act?
Over the years that I have had the privilege of witnessing health transformation and spiritual awakening, I have spent much of the time marveling at this elusive ingredient…readiness. In fact, the energy of these reclamation processes has felt more like a volcano that needed permission to explode than an underdog fighter being pushed into the ring. Those who experience radical healing do so because they are ready.
Despite my capacity to inspire, coerce, or even manipulate (shadow material I’m working on!) others to walk the path of personal empowerment, I have found that readiness is not something I can generate in another. In fact, a psychiatric medication taper attempted without that readiness is likely to end in a return to medication.
The readiness continuum is not a linear path, but a spiral one. We touch opportunities for expansion and growth, and if we are ready, we engage the shift, and if not, we may contract until the opportunity presents itself again. We are each traveling this highly personal path, exploring what we are strong enough to look at, turning the blind of denial at what we aren’t.
I’ve come to prefer this perspective to the emerging dualism of those who are awakened, conscious, or spiritual versus those who are asleep, ignorant, and materialist. We all have all of it within us. Perhaps what distinguishes us is our intentionality, our choices, and our access to love of self. From this vantage point, we are all simply ripening over time, in our own way, at our own pace. In fact, I’ve read that evil has origins in the word unripe. Could it be that what we are calling bad is simply incompletely nurtured?