How BDSM Can Heal Trauma

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Om Rupani is a teacher and practitioner in the realm of BDSM and conscious kink, known for his work on power dynamics, trauma, and erotic healing.

In this episode, you're going to learn how BDSM can be used to revisit past trauma and reshape personal narratives, why jealousy and abandonment fears can be worked through in a controlled scene, how body shame can be addressed through role-play and worship dynamics, what parent-child scene design looks like in BDSM and how it helps people heal childhood wounds, and why cultural misconceptions about kink limit its potential as a tool for self-awareness and empowerment.

Timestamps:

[00:00] Introduction

[03:05] How BDSM intersects with trauma, pleasure, and healing

[05:12] Understanding the father-daughter dynamic in relationships

[06:08] How childhood experiences shape adult desires

[07:20] Why reenacting childhood wounds can be healing

[08:14] Common father-daughter wounds and their emotional impact

[09:05] Revisiting painful childhood memories in a controlled way

[10:18] How a dom can rewrite past trauma

[11:10] Why people internalize childhood neglect as self-blame

[12:02] How reenacting childhood wounds can change self-perception

[13:15] The role of theater and psychodrama in BDSM

[14:09] How women can relive and heal rejection from their fathers

[15:30] Why BDSM scene design is structured like a play

[16:22] Examples of how childhood wounds show up in adult relationships

[19:02] The impact of revisiting parental rejection in scene play

[20:10] The emotional release that comes from reenacting past pain

[21:04] The psychological effects of feeling preferred or not preferred

[22:15] The deep-rooted nature of childhood wounds in adult life

[23:09] How re-experiencing childhood emotions can reframe memories

[24:03] The importance of acknowledging that parents are human

[25:12] Using BDSM to address self-worth issues rooted in childhood

[26:08] Why people carry childhood pain into adulthood

[27:00] The difference between memory, narrative, and reality

[28:15] The role of the dom in guiding emotional catharsis

[29:05] How the body holds onto past trauma

[30:10] The connection between physical sensations and emotional healing

[31:12] How BDSM can address and release stored trauma

[32:20] The impact of feeling powerless as a child

[33:08] How physical expression can help process past pain

[34:04] Why talk therapy alone cannot resolve deep trauma

[35:10] Jealousy as a common relationship challenge

[36:02] How BDSM can be used to work through jealousy

[38:00] How playing out jealousy can lessen its intensity

[41:08] Why understanding your fears can give you more agency

[42:04] How women can shift their perspective on their partner’s attraction to others

[45:02] How body shame impacts relationships and intimacy

[46:10] How BDSM can help heal body insecurities

[47:15] Why body shaming is common in BDSM play

[48:02] How men and women experience different types of body shame

[49:08] The role of worship and cherishment in healing body shame

[50:05] Why aftercare is essential in BDSM scenes

[51:10] How physical play can anchor emotional healing

[52:02] Why BDSM is not just for “kinky” people

[53:08] How scene play can be an effective tool for personal growth

[54:12] Why BDSM should not be stigmatized in therapeutic settings

[55:05] How this approach can complement traditional therapy

[56:02] The importance of embracing taboo topics for healing

Learn more about Om Rupani’s School for Dominance & Submission on his website, YouTube channel and Instagram.

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